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What you speak matters, literally. Every word you speak describes and creates what you experience. What you say and how you say it has a tremendous impact for you and your listeners. The words you choose to speak to yourself define the shape, texture and felt sense of your inner reality.

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What if your beliefs are wrong? Well, one thing is certain, as long as you live according to beliefs, whatever you believe conscious and unconscious, you will experience as your life.

Core beliefs create misery or happiness, wealth or poverty, health or disease, loving or hateful relationships. Beliefs are not magic, they are instructions that program behavior and interpret events. Beliefs literally create and attract all the people, circumstances and events that make up your life.

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Most people are un-aware of the impact language has in their life. Language shapes your inner experience and your outer reality mirrors it. Language focuses and directs your attention. Do you know energy follows attention? It does! Through language you define yourself mentally and you determine the limits to your imagination and capacities. Your language is an expression of your thoughts, ideas and concepts and it has tremendous power when used consciously.

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Romantic relationships require daily nurturing, playfulness and a living commitment to the relationship’s vision. Where is your relationship going? In what direction are your daily choices taking your relationship? How available are you for intimacy? What values direct the way you choose to be when: disagreeing, asking for help, receiving feedback, giving feedback, negotiating options, realizing that what you need from your partner is not available, realizing that you are not being heard and understood? How do you behave when you feel hurt, ignored or rejected by your partner?

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Self-sabotage is behaving in ways that undermine what you know is good or appropriate and, when you violate your core values and current goals, priorities and responsibilities. Self-sabotage can be interrupted once you are aware of what triggers it and how it affects your wellbeing. The key to stop self-sabotage is developing the necessary Self-awareness to act powerfully and in alignment with your core values.

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 Your immune system is hard wired to maintain your well being by a simple and powerful directive: protect from harm by recognizing self from not self and, attacking the not self to neutralize it or destroy it. Likewise, your ego constructs a mental/emotional identity by erecting a subjective self/not-self boundary. Then, your ego’s directive is to protect its identity by means of psychological defenses. 

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How your belief in the need for safety undermines  - True intimacy

Human beings get conditioned to survive inside an intricate network of unconscious psychological defenses. In the process of becoming civilized children inherit a rigid mindset for self-preservation from their parents and culture. This mindset is based on primitive strategies that unconsciously control behavior in order to produce a familiar feeling of safety. The “invisible” problem happens when you identify with the defense mechanism that is attempting to protect you. The defense mechanism is your ego and the identity it constructs.

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When you are present and free of inner conflict it is effortless, natural, spontaneous and authentic to relate to your partner lovingly. When you are identified with an image of you, the unconscious automatic way to relate to your lover is with mistrust, careful, and different forms of aggression including being demanding and controlling. Be grateful to your partner for it is through the mirror of intimate relationships that you come to know yourself. There is no clearer mirror to see your greatest virtues and your worse attributes than how you relate to your lover.

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Intelligence is a gift you were born with. It is a tool for actualizing your heart’s desires. While most people use intelligence only to survive threats and solve problems, the real gift of intelligence is to free your attention from a limited mind-set and, to connect you to your creativity. Intelligence in service to love and life fulfills the human desire for true happiness.

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Do you enjoy intimate relationships? Do you have a compelling vision for your life? Do you have passion? Are you courageous? Are you curious and adventurous? Do you forgive easily? What do you trust?